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  • the embarrassed new guy

    I'm gonna strait out say it, I'm 41 and i am a Virgin still.. you may ask why; well while growing up had a year younger sister who had more girl friends and I don't really know why but I was always felt intimidated around her friends and it stayed with me all the way through high school. After that I developed a social anxiety and until recently I could not ever get the nerve to even talk to the ladies.
    just didn't know how to get that olp photo off so replace it with this
    Last edited by rtekrt; 07-07-2019, 01:10 AM.

  • #2
    Welcome to the forum brother,, I think you will find the people here are friendly and helpful about answering questions and giving advice

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    • DanniMoon
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      Yeah. I love how the community have taught me something lately.

  • #3
    How about when it comes to chatting or texting women? Do you have problems with that or it's only when it's face to face encounters

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    • MoiraClay
      MoiraClay commented
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      If he can handle a thread like this and also showing his face, I wonder what part of it is he having a trouble with.

  • #4
    Maybe chatting with us here can be a good start for you when it comes to talking with ladies

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    • JoeyBaby
      JoeyBaby commented
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      Yeah. Really a good guy. Hope he finds someone soon.

    • MikeInShiningArmor
      MikeInShiningArmor commented
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      But his problem is face to face. This really not help at all, aside from confidence boost.

    • Airglax
      Airglax commented
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      This is a good idea. He could start from here and start building confidence. He needs to participate more and more and before he knows it, confidence has already been developed.

  • #5
    Funny how there is a movie about your situation. Maybe you can watch for some pointers

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    • Movievestre
      Movievestre commented
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      What is the title of the movie that you are referring to? Do they have similar cases?

  • #6
    The same thing I said to my friend with the same trouble as you— just get over that wall blocking what you want and it will snowball from there. It takes just a moment of courage.

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    • iwantsexnowplease
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      That sort of thing is easier said that done. It is like telling a person who's depressed to think of happy thoughts and try to smile so that they would feel better

  • #7
    I don't see any problem really. Maybe you just need to go out and don't listen to your anxiety for once.

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    • SupaPussy789
      SupaPussy789 commented
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      But what if that anxiety is already yelling at you and unable to listen to anything else?

    • PennyTration
      PennyTration commented
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      This really is the case most of the time. You can't really apply calm thinking at these times.

  • #8
    Originally posted by antitrump View Post
    How about when it comes to chatting or texting women? Do you have problems with that or it's only when it's face to face encounters
    Its the face to face encounters i have trouble with
    I was talking with a therapist for a while and he helped me out of the anxiety shell

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    • Airglax
      Airglax commented
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      Good to know that you've taken steps in overcoming your anxiety

    • shumwap
      shumwap commented
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      A good therapist should already walked you through your problem. But can I ask what your therapist thinks about this?

  • #9
    Did your sister hangout with the cool kids? Because if she did, that can be one of the reasons why you felt intimidated by them

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    • lovestudder
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      I wonder why he felt intimidated. Those were just young girls.

  • #10
    All this just boils down to practice and exposure. That what I think, at least.

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    • Damitboy45
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      Practice makes perfection is what I have always heard

  • #11
    Originally posted by melaniamania View Post
    Did your sister hangout with the cool kids? Because if she did, that can be one of the reasons why you felt intimidated by them
    I felt some were cool and I was a nerd/geek in school

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    • punkchick
      punkchick commented
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      That can really be a problem if your sibling hangouts with cool kids and you know that you don't fit the type

  • #12
    Did you happen to know the reasons why you got intimidated with your sister's friends?

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    • #13
      Now that you are older, have you tried asking some women and going for dates?

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      • PennyTration
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        He is still fine at that part. Just the up close and personal that gets him.

    • #14
      actually been writing to someone now, she's studying to become a Nurse.

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      • hulagirlsexsexyum
        hulagirlsexsexyum commented
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        She is still in school. I guess she is about half your age?

      • sexsexgirlnowme
        sexsexgirlnowme commented
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        I could never become a nurse. I am afraid to handle blood. My body just trembles whenever I see bloody cuts.

      • HearAlive
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        sexsexgirlnowme Being a nurse is not just all about blood. They do something else too.

    • #15
      Ok just started to read "Ready Player One" and there was a section that stated exactly how I see women even today, "To me, they were like some exotic alien species, both beautiful and terrifying--Wade Watts" but I'd lean more to the beautiful side of that

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